Slut!

In the past few months, there have been highly publicized protests, held by mainly women, and these protests or match’s are called Slutwalks. The first walk was held on April 3rd, 2011 after a Toronto police officer, Constable Michael Sanguinetti suggested that to remain safe, “woman should avoid dressing like sluts.”

These slutwalks, the title of which has been the subject of many heated debates in itself, have shown women, often dressed suggestively carrying signs, have spread from Toronto to the UK and even in London, Ontario. The most recent was held in India, a place not known for provocatively dressed women.

Should a woman have to dress demurely to avoid being sexually assaulted? If so, then there is something sorely wrong with this world. If you dress a certain way, does this give someone the right to assault you?

Around the same time that the most ill-informed police officer in the world opened his mouth, a San Francisco Giants fan was attacked and critically injured by two men wearing Dodgers jerseys, I am not going to suggest they were fans. Why? Because he was wearing a Giants shirt. Does this mean that to avoid being nearly beaten to death you can no longer wear your teams jersey to away games? Of course not but no one would dare to suggest that, but it is OK to tell women how to dress.

Women are attractive things, why else would bars offer ladies nights or clubs let ‘hot’ (as decided by the bouncers) women jump the queue? I wouldn’t dream of suggesting that this is a bad idea but I am sure that if most women dressed in overalls and a baseball cap, they wouldn’t have free drinks. Women like to dress provocatively, although not being a woman I can only hazard a guess why. Something to do with making men look and act stupidly may have something to do with it. There is nothing better than a woman who is very comfortable with who she is and what she looks like. There is a confidence that cannot be faked.

What if the tables were turned and men were told not to dress in a suit because it just invites women to come on to them? Most men would be running out to Moores for Men for a suit, myself included! As humans we want to be noticed and being well dressed is one way to get attention. Another is to get falling down drunk but you seem to have less luck that way. From my experience with the ladies (re-read that line with a deeper voice), I know that when a woman looks good, she feels good and I can relate to that, when I am wearing a suit I feel special, I feel as if I am getting more attention although this might well be because I am paranoid.

Imagine what would happen to the retail industry if women no longer dress sexily. La Senza would go out of business, so would all those shops that sell those short dresses and knee high boots. I suppose the sale of jeans would go up but even then, a good pair of jeans can be a fine thing to see. What next? How about stopping women from wearing makeup, or at least, so much makeup? From now on, women can only wear lipstick (a colour to be approved before departing the home) and eye liner, nothing else. Oh, and only one squirt of perfume. You don’t want to entice men to paw you just because you smell good.

I sometimes feel as if I am missing the punchline to a huge joke when I read about statements such as the ones made by the Toronto Constable. I don’t understand how someone, especially someone who deals with the public such as a policeman, can be so out of touch with reality. We all say the wrong thing at the wrong time, make a mistake, drop a clanger, but this wasn’t a social faux pa, this was an honest opinion from someone who is still lives in the 70s in his head.

I would miss it if women no longer wore short skirts, flash their pierced belly buttons, wear tall boots. I have never had the urge to assault anyone doing this, although other thoughts may have entered my mind momentarily, nothing violent though, more enjoyable, and I am going to shut up now. If you are female or male, you should be able to dress how you want without fear of assault or attack. To do anything else would be giving in to those who probably believe that dancing is wrong and women shouldn’t vote.

 

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5 comments

  1. I agree with the theory that people should be able to dress whatever way they want. It is terrible that a police officer should say such things as to suggest that it is any slight way a woman’s fault for some maniacs actions in attacking them. 70’s mentality, more like 50’s. I am shocked at the glib way you talk about how you enjoy seeing women dressed provactively and are not irritated at the practice of letting scantily clad women skip the lines at night clubs. I used to go to a bar in town, Burty Bob’s with my sister and her friends. My sister used to drink and dress like a ‘slut’ per say. She learned early on, way before she was of age that if she dressed provactively she could enter bars under age and get beyond drunk. She was mistreated by men who saw nothing wrong with this, she was impressionable, insecure but came off as someone who had it all together. Men would get her drunk and take her home, have their way and many times kick her out right afterwards, she was assaulted, and ridiculed. However she continued, every weekend going to Burty Bob’s. I would go with her and her friends, all of them dressed like streetwalkers, all of them already drunk, and I would be dressed normally, I was considered attractive in my job and by many educated peers however not at this bar. One night the bouncers actually asked my sister who was with her, she pointed out all of her entourage, they allowed everyone in, except me, for free and gave them all endless free drinks, and literally pointed out the ‘easy girls’ to a bunch of learing men who immediately jumped on them. I was humiliated at the door, and was laughed at by the rest of the people behind me, however it was nothing to the disrespect that was heaped on my sister, and yes it was her decision but she had issues. Maybe before you write a story about how women should be able to dress likes sluts, and tell how much you enjoy watching them you should think about how some of these women come to be dressed like this, it normally is deeper then just wanting men to enjoy watching them. I think you have the right idea but are still very far off from helping the plight of women, you could be one of those guys sitting there oogling someone’s troubled sister, mother or daughter. Women should respect themselves and realize that they do not need to dress sexy to get respect, the respect they get from people who think they look ‘hot’ is not respect at all. And for the girls that want to dress like that it is a free country, so go ahead, and for that you are right they should be left alone, whether it be from attacks, or lears from men at public places enjoying the view.

  2. oh and ladies nights are just that ladies nights, and I for one look good in a ball cap and overalls and would be offered and have been offered free drinks from many a man while not looking my best. so that theory is not true. And there are many other ways for a women to feel good as far as wardrobe goes… many women feel good in yoga pants and a sweatshirt, or in their favourite non lingerie pj’s. They do not have to be all dolled up to feel good. It goes beyond that. I am not saying that I disagree with your post completely just that it made me laugh because it seems a bit behind as far as women’s issues go.

  3. Well I am a man so of course I am behind with women’s issues…. every time I ask about women’s issues I am told that they are fine…..and we all know what is meant when a man is told fine !!! lol I don’t mean to be glib about provocative women, I simply have got to the stage in my life where I appreciate everything I can see because I surely can’t have it anymore. I have known women as you described who would go out, get drunk and then go home with the a different man each night and to be fair, I always felt that if the woman wasn’t being forced to do it, I didn’t have anything against it. Of course, with my luck, I never had a drunk woman take me home…… no matter how much I asked!

    I do like seeing women dress sexily, the same way I like watching a movie with attractive women, I don’t think of them as anything other than attractive, you are right that I don’t think of the reasons behind why they dress like that, probably because I have never met someone who explained why to me. Women should always be respected no matter how they dress.

    And I am so old, I can’t even leer properly, I have to squint even wearing my glasses lol then my wife hits me and I have to stop anyway!!

    Thank you so much for you comments though, I really do appreciate an intelligent comment like yours!

  4. Thanks for the response. The night at Burty Bob is something I will never forget it was like watching my sister slide into a market where she was on sale. It was a joke for most, she was a laughing stock and for the most part she knew it, but her issues kept her there, trying to find a prince even though in that place she would never find luck. She wanted to be loved though at the core and that is where it went terribly wrong. It is funny as well because all I could concentrate on at first was my humiliation, being singled out as the ‘ugly’ one by the bouncers and made to pay, complaining to the owner and having him just walk away and go to my sister and tell her drinks on the house and literally watching him instruct the bartenders to comp my group except for me. It took me awhile to bounce back from that but luckily I had a good ‘gay’ friend who wiped my tears and told me to look at it correctly, I was humiliated for being normal, for dressing well, and that I need not worry about those small men. My sister never found love, she found frog after frog after frog. She tried though and the more she tried the drunker she got and the skirt got shorter. She was the queen of the world at Burty Bob’s, along with the rest of the blond, young girls that had the same title, but that did not translate well into reality. I just wish people would look behind what they actually see and not judge so quickly. I wish women everywhere would realize that they do not need to dress for someone, however again if they want to dress a certain way, then go for it, but for the right reasons. There is a big difference between an educated woman who knows that she does not need a man to be happy who wants to go out and feel sexy for a night, take in the nice comments and looks but not let herself get lost, as compared to a sad girl who feels that the only way to get a man to notice her is by wearing something skimpy. Wear skimpy for yourself, not for someone else.

  5. I completely agree with your last comment, if you are going to dress sexy, do it for yourself! So let me see, from all of your comments, I take it you are an educated woman who happens to look amazing in a ball cap and overalls? Do I have that right? lol It can often be just as ‘sexy’ to see a woman who is all of the above, confidence is as good as a short skirt.

    My wife doesn’t dress sexily most of the time but that doesn’t stop me finding her attractive, I am pretty sure she has put a spell on me anyway!

    I think what I meant to say but in my male way didn’t say it correctly is that woman are very much like expensive cars. Just because you drive one doesn’t mean you can’t admire another one without wanting to drive it. Woman are like expensive cars, pieces of art to be admired and respected. Of course, if they happen to be fast, fun to handle and dangerous, that can be fun as well lol