There is a movement afoot to be kind to strangers, hold the door for someone, to pass it forward. I am guilty of suggesting a similar such thing but now I have had enough of it. If you really are going to be kind, you don’t wait for a special day, for a radio commercial to suggest it, you simply do it.
With the viral nature of social media such as Facebook and Twitter, it seems that one persons half assed idea can become viral and therefore appear on my Facebook wall in minutes. Most of the time, the posts are dumb, stupid, not thought out either by the originator or the person who forwarded it to me. Someone has an idea to have a special day to be nice to a stranger and everyone seems to think it is an amazing and unique idea.
Here’s an idea, the special day where you are nice to strangers and friend equally is called TODAY!
If you hold the door open for someone, don’t waste my time by posting about it on Facebook or Twitter. Doing one act of kindness doesn’t make you some kind of saint or better person and if you have to make an announcement every time you do something nice, it doesn’t leave much time to repeat your unexpected kindness.
Shouldn’t everyone be nice and then we could hold a ‘Don’t be nice to anyone day’ or maybe a ‘Sod everyone else, I am going to have a me day!’ where we just look after ourselves and ignore everyone else.
I don’t want to sound as if I do regular acts of kindness because, a) people who know me would never believe it and b) I don’t want to be like all those other annoying people. I may or may not do random and not so random acts of kindness, I am not going to tell you either way because it is none of your damned business.
In the UK, when you are in a pub you usually buy the barman/woman/keep a drink if you have at the pub been there for any significant amount of time drunking. Should we post when we do that? How about tipping the wait staff of your favourite restaurant? Surely leaving a tip is more significant than simply holding a door open.
So from now on, every time I see someone boasting about how randomly kind they have been I will make my own random act of kindness, I won’t grab a snow shovel and hit them over the head with it. Not only would that be enjoyable but it would be a kindness to all that feel as I do, that kindness should be built in to your everyday life, a bit like airbags and seatbelts in new cars.